If you're trying to break free from someone in your life, 
or let's say, a situation, limiting belief or unwanted feeling,
the last thing you should do is pull away.

Imagine that you have a living cord between you, like an umbilical cord.
You've been sharing your energies with this 'other' through this cord.
Information, love, needs, feelings etc. have been flowing both ways.

Pulling or pushing puts painful pressure and tension on the connection.
You might think you can snap this connection. You can't.
You might think you can cut it, but you can't.
You probably try to switch off the thoughts and feelings, but you can't.
You're a human, not a machine.

The cord can stretch like a bungee, giving you a temporary feeling of freedom 
as you gain some sense of distance from them.
But your position hasn't really changed. 
You are still connected.

You will either get stuck and stranded in the dark, 
cling on to something or someone else ahead of you for comfort,
or bounce right back to where you started. 


People say time heals.
It doesn't. It just buries and hides what we choose not to focus on.
And there's only so many drugs or medications you can take to keep numbing the pain.

Wherever there is something precious being avoided, there is pain.
Pain remains, awaiting something powerful, 
awaiting that you give enough to dissolve the connection peacefully, 
to resolve and restore the harmony on both sides.

Ultimately, whether it's this year or next year,
this life time or the next life-time, for your greatest joy, peace and wellbeing,
you will have to turn and face the very thing you want to get away from.

'Getting rid' of what we don't want doesn't work. 
Like the rubbish we throw away in the bin every day -
it might leave our house of bricks and mortar, but it doesn't leave our home of this planet.
The responsibility is simply shifted, so we get space from it to carry on with our 'normal' lives.
But all that rubbish is meanwhile building up and polluting the very organism upon which we depend.
It's kind of crazy, yet we do it.

We cannot escape our rights of ownership and stay in denial. 

If you're in pain it's because you left something valuable behind.
Something very valuable of yourself; 
something also worth honouring and being grateful for.

You must go back and reclaim your power. 
You must go back and regain responsibility and act from consciousness.
You must go back and look your enemy, your mother, father or lover in the eye,
and see the soul that helped you to grow.
See the soul that wants you to evolve.
See the soul that helped you to remember and know; 
That you are the love you are looking for, and
You hold the keys to your freedom.

And when you have reclaimed all that was truly yours,
and when you have given back what is truly theirs,
the ties are undone, with reverence, and an honouring of the truth,
then the situation will depart from your reality in peace.

Love cannot be dumped like rubbish.
Nor can it be pushed away and denied or hidden.
It demands our fullest attention.
It hammers down our doors and walls to be let in.
Love's voice must be heard and all things be humbly forgiven.


Take into your heart the only thing that truly lasts forever, surpassing all else;
The love that was, is and always will be, yours to own.



All my love
Tara 

​I got home last night from a weekend away, and asked my 19 year old son, "So, how was your weekend?" 


He replied, "There's a guy on Youtube making videos of himself killing kittens, and about 30 people are trying to catch him. And now he's just killed a human on video...Kobe Bryant has died and there's a killer zombie flu from China. I'm great mum. Ha!"


In a world that has literally gone crazy, and will continue to do so until every last bit of sick, perverse, twisted, ill, destructive and denied bit of unwanted ignorance has come to the surface for us to FACE HEAD ON, it's time we woke up and smelt the truth. 


When we ignore our inner demons, the suppression can only sustain so long until it re-bounds right back up again, bigger, better, and bloodier than ever!


When we pretend we're feeling fine under layers of lip gloss, spiritual wish-wash and media induced Hypnos, the madness must out. And now it's running about, begging for a different reaction to the one we're giving it.


We've got to wake up people. Collectively. It's a team thing.
And no faking it allowed under a cloud of dope or other such numbing agents.


The truth is, as the truth has always been, that we seek to know ourselves. When we don't know WHO we are, we are like the musk deer bashing our heads against our inner walls and blocks, trying to find the Source of what we long for.


We know it's close, yet we're so far from home, looking in all the misleading youtube videos and insta quote-photos, trying to remember the real thing. 


Love is the real thing, and You are the Source of it. The very well of the ultimate wellbeing is within you. The One and Only, the One True Love, the best friend, the beloved, the answer to everything and reason for being. 


Absolutely NOthing makes sense without it. When we lose heart we lose who we are. 


And although it's easy to say, it’s not so easy to do. We only have to look around us and see how many half measures we've made and how much disharmony resounds to realise that we have yet to get in deeper and immerse. We're still paddling the edges, clinging to concepts, afraid of getting absolutely submerged in real bliss. It's as if we're addicted to suffering. It's as if we like being helpless.


To help the world, you help yourself. It's not helpful to make it someone else's job to save you. It's not helpful being helpless. It's not helpful carrying your mess into other people's lives, even as you boldly attempt to help save them. The weak can't save the weak. Save yourself to save the world. We are the cause, what happens in the world is the consequence. Treat the cause. 



Treat the cause. Treat your demons, self loathing, weaknesses, pain. Treat your guilt, fear and hidden shame to a dose of loving attention. Where's your empathy when you need it? Where's your compassion, can you receive it? Love yourself to bring more love to the world. 


You don't find what you're looking for in another person. Your Home is in You. You cannot enter the kingdom of heaven though someone else's heart. The door is in yours. You won't find peace by blaming someone else for not giving it to you. Your peace is in you. You heart beats only for you. Your emptiness is only filled by you. Your Source only calls your name. Fall in, and fall in love. 

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Love and gratitude
Tara

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Quick disclaimer ~ Some would argue that the world doesn't need saving, it's the people that do! That's why my list of the Top Ten Ways to Save the World has some surprising elements that are not necessarily linked with environmentalism, but definitely have a huge and transformational impact on the future of our planet and humanity. Some will disagree with the list below and may even become enraged or condemning of my choices and views...but's that's life. We're all different. I've listed these 10 things from a life-time's experience in holistic living, spirituality, consciousness development, and vegetarianism, with 15 years as a Soul/Akashic Record Reader. I'd love to hear your thoughts and feedback is always interesting! Enjoy...and most importantly, choose to make a difference and TAKE ACTION!! Much love.

10 Stop working for un-integral corporations or selling your soul to a job that sucks the life out of you! Instead do work you love and help others. Take back your time and your power, and fulfil your life by letting go of a false belief that you are dependant upon ‘The System’ for money. The truth is, the system is dependant upon YOU working for them! When you discover your gifts, talents and inner-genius and apply them in a way that serves You to serve others, not only will you help end tyranny and corruption and become the solution the world is waiting for, you'll be fulfilling you destiny and your own heart too! You have a unique potential and purpose that will make you and many others happier, healthier and wealthier. Don't wait a day longer through fear. Make a life transforming decision NOW to live your purpose and serve humanity.

​7 Change Your Energy! When you change your gas and electric to an eco-energy supplier you will no longer be contributing to the ecocidal practice of fracking, coal mining, oil and gas drilling, or nuclear power. The fact that we still burn fossil fuels despite our technological capabilities and environmental knowledge is pure insanity. Plus, nuclear power plants only generate 14% of the world’s energy but have the potential to kill off much of the planet if just one of them was to have a serious disaster. Another incident like Fukushima would create an irreversible catastrophe. Whereas, renewable energy is infinitely safer and currently accounts for 24.5% of world energy production, that's almost a quarter. It’s a simple no-brainer to switch immediately. I use ‘Good Energy’ in the UK and you can switch over easily here - https://www.goodenergy.co.uk/
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6 Impending, Invisible Threat - Perhaps one the biggest threats to all life looming on planet right now is the new mobile phone technology - 5G. According to Dr. Joel Moskowitz, a public health professor at the University of California, “The deployment of 5G, or fifth generation cellular technology, constitutes a massive experiment on the health of all species.” Eluxe Magazine states “5G technology puts environmental health at risk in a number of ways. First, MMWs may pose a serious threat to plant health…it could contaminate our food supply. Second, the 5G infrastructure would pose a threat to our planet’s atmosphere. Third, 5G will potentially threaten natural ecosystems.” The best cure is prevention ~ so if you value our world more than your download speed, and you want a world for our kids to grow up in, sign a petition to get this STOPPED before it starts. > https://www.change.org/p/change-org-stop-the-rollout-of-5g-service
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4  Reduce Plastic! - ​From the truck load of plastic dumped in the world’s oceans EVERY MINUTE, rapid de-oxygenation and acidification is making the sea a hostile environment for marine life. Not only will reducing plastic contribute massively to saving the ocean but it will also stop the suffocation of the soil. Terrestrial micro-plastic pollution is estimated up to 23 times higher than marine micro-plastic pollution, and since we produce 400 TONS of plastic annually, including the plastic fibres in our clothing, it’s no wonder that it’s fast becoming irreversibly integrated into every corner of the globe’s eco-system, and alarmingly, our FOOD and WATER. How can you cut down plastic in your household? Here's 15 ways to implement immediately and some science to back it up >> https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2018/02/180205125728.htm

3 Change The World ~ Change Your Food! ’You are what you eat,’ so to STOP eating fear-farmed, torturously treated, hormone and chemical injected animals would not only be a life-saver for you, but would be the greatest contribution you could make to avoiding eco-disaster. SHOCKING FACT: Avoiding meat and dairy products is the single biggest way to reduce your environmental impact on the planet, according to the scientists behind the most comprehensive analysis to date of the damage farming does to the planet. The biggest cause of greenhouse gases is Methane produced by Cattle farms at a whopping 51%. AND the reason why the Amazon and other vital forests are being cut down is for grazing land and growing the Soy to feed them. Give up eating this kind of meat and put the industry out of business to end global warming NOW. If you don't want to stop eating animals, at least shop at your local organic farm instead.

“A vegan diet is probably the single biggest way to reduce your impact on planet Earth, not just greenhouse gases, but global acidification, eutrophication, land use and water use,” said Joseph Poore, at the University of Oxford, UK, who led the research. “It is far bigger than cutting down on your flights or buying an electric car,” he said, as these only cut greenhouse gas emissions.

FACT - Livestock and their byproducts account for at least 32,000 million tons of carbon dioxide (CO2) per year, or 51% of all worldwide greenhouse gas emissions. http://www.cowspiracy.com/facts/

1 The number ONE thing needed in this world is more LOVE, and the most powerful and effective place to start is with yourself. Unconditional self-love not only transforms your private, inter-personal relationship with yourself, and consequently the rest of your external life, but it also raises your vibration and ups your level of attraction for what you want to consciously manifest! Self-Love makes you irresistibly magnetic and super empowered! Self love transforms your addictions, habits, diet and the way you treat your mind and body. You suddenly realise you are part of the whole, not separate from anyone else or any other living thing. It bridges your innate need for love and connection to the little one within you that needs it. It heals, ends judgement and mends barriers faster than anything else, and it lasts forever, and it's anti-toxic, and it's sustainable, and it's duplicatable, and it's FREE!

   When you truly love, forgive, and serve yourself you naturally become a more loving, forgiving and serving person to others. You also learn by your own self-love mastery what’s genuine love and what falls short; what works and what doesn’t. And because Absolute Love is the essential nature of you and all creation, it is fundamentally THE greatest force in the whole universe! There’s literally nothing Love can’t do, including transform the world and evolve your consciousness to the highest potential.
   To genuinely love oneself and find your own answers and truth within you is the greatest challenge.  Throughout history there's been forces that would rather you didn't look within, didn't connect to your inner-source of infinite love, wisdom and truth, and didn't love yourself enough to break through your perceived limitations and expand to your full potential. They would rather you hate and berate yourself, feel ashamed and scared of owning your power, and be a helpless dependant upon their religions, systems, drugs and authority figures instead. The most empowering way to re-claim your sovereignty is self-love. You can learn more now and get started INSTANTLY!

I'm literally GIVING AWAY free digital copies of my book "I Love You, Me" because I want You to make a positive difference in your life, become the leader you were born to be, inspire and teach others, and help make this world a more loving and beautiful place to be.

The title 'Spiritual Teacher' implies that life is all sewn up and sorted, that they always feel happy, going with the flow and trusting the universe. To some people, it sounds like a superior status as if the world doesn't taint them or they are above everyone. To others it sounds ungrounded, as if reality doesn't touch them and their words are castles in the air, not relevant to normal life. The word 'Spiritual' even has this kind of aloft, aloof ring to it.
But, the truth is....

Being human doesn't make special allowances for anyone. Allowing it makes a master of everyone.

If you try to live above humanity, be better than it and not get involved, life will throw you face down in it. If you try to hide, avoiding being the human who you are, you'll be forced out of hiding and exposed. Like the children's story "We're going on a bear hunt" sagely states, "We can't go over it, we can't go under it... Oh NO! We've got to go through it!"
There's no way out of life and being human, but through.

In life, there is always a cutting edge, a sharp learning curve, a new layer of consciousness starkly revealed. There's always winter following summer, where inner weather strips bare, blows down, tears up and rots what was recently fun and fruitful. There's always destruction before development, fear-inducing rites of passage before entering new paradigms, and sacrifices to be made of righteous belief systems and spiritual egos if the heart is to reign, for EVERYONE.

The Secret Sauce to Being Human... 

In all our years, cycles and soul seasons in this human form, one thing remains true, no matter what happens or what you do. One thing is your saviour, your lifeline, your beloved, your friend, your true Guru.
Is it okay with you if I share?

Love.
Love never abandoned you, never left your side, never left you when my lover did. Love never judged you when you were in fear, never scolded you when you were wrong, or shamed you when you were weak. Love ceaselessly caresses you from within, and holds you close even when you don't let it in.

Love is what we fight with all of the time, terrified as we are of it's exposing light, but it's what we most seek, most need, and all that we really want. Love is the fire that burns at our core, it's the light that illuminates the stars, it's the 'self' we search for, it's the god we pray for. Love is the creation itself, the be all and end all. Without it we are nothing.

With it we are kings and queens, emperors and empresses. It's the secret sauce to everything. In love, paupers prosper and beggars are reborn. In love, we return to the child we once were. In love, innocence is rekindled, genius is re-ignited, creation has passion to it, play has purpose to it, relationships have meaning, and labour becomes service. 

The age-old question still begs - "But HOW?"
Practically, in every day reality...How can you get this luminous but illustrious thing that seems to disappear in the night? That when you grab for it, it slips through your fingers? How can you keep love and remember it, and have it save your life like it has mine, over and over, time and time again?

I've been bullied and abused, I've been raped and used, I've been beaten and bruised, I've been burned and confused. I've been lost in illusion, caught by false promises and drowned in delusion. I've been alone and abandoned, I've been helpless and stranded. I've been the victim and the aggressor, been eye to eye with madness and head to head with depression. I've been penniless and homeless, I've been brought to my knees and I've been thoughtless, and through it all there was a presence, a blessing, a gift.

Love taught me to love ALL of myself.
I became a teacher of what I most needed to learn, and continue to. It's humbling.

When I had nothing, I realised I had everything. When I thought I was nothing, love showed me who I really am. It was always inside me, and so I used it; like a tool to mend, like a cloth to clean, like a friend to lean on and like an angel to heal me. I let Love love me, and I followed suit. I learned from it's ways and I tracked it's routes. Love showed me the impossible was always right there. Love showed me truth in the darkness, and guided me there.

Loving ourselves is perhaps the greatest challenge on earth because it goes against our survival instinct to avoid what we don't understand and run from what we most fear: Ourselves.

We are our own greatest enemy, and our own shadow haunts our soul eternally, until one day we discover that there's nowhere left to go, but IN.

So, next time life has you in a tail-spin again and you're taking the thousandth nose dive, perhaps it's time to make a life changing, destiny altering, world transforming decision? Turn and face your inner demons and love them into wholeness instead. 

Come home to you. You are worth loving, unconditionally. 

I hope this helps. 
All my love,
Tara 

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