If you're in pain it's because you left something valuable behind...

If you're trying to break free from someone in your life, 
or let's say, a situation, limiting belief or unwanted feeling,
the last thing you should do is pull away.

Imagine that you have a living cord between you, like an umbilical cord.
You've been sharing your energies with this 'other' through this cord.
Information, love, needs, feelings etc. have been flowing both ways.

Pulling or pushing puts painful pressure and tension on the connection.
You might think you can snap this connection. You can't.
You might think you can cut it, but you can't.
You probably try to switch off the thoughts and feelings, but you can't.
You're a human, not a machine.

The cord can stretch like a bungee, giving you a temporary feeling of freedom 
as you gain some sense of distance from them.
But your position hasn't really changed. 
You are still connected.

You will either get stuck and stranded in the dark, 
cling on to something or someone else ahead of you for comfort,
or bounce right back to where you started. 


People say time heals.
It doesn't. It just buries and hides what we choose not to focus on.
And there's only so many drugs or medications you can take to keep numbing the pain.

Wherever there is something precious being avoided, there is pain.
Pain remains, awaiting something powerful, 
awaiting that you give enough to dissolve the connection peacefully, 
to resolve and restore the harmony on both sides.

Ultimately, whether it's this year or next year,
this life time or the next life-time, for your greatest joy, peace and wellbeing,
you will have to turn and face the very thing you want to get away from.

'Getting rid' of what we don't want doesn't work. 
Like the rubbish we throw away in the bin every day -
it might leave our house of bricks and mortar, but it doesn't leave our home of this planet.
The responsibility is simply shifted, so we get space from it to carry on with our 'normal' lives.
But all that rubbish is meanwhile building up and polluting the very organism upon which we depend.
It's kind of crazy, yet we do it.

We cannot escape our rights of ownership and stay in denial. 

If you're in pain it's because you left something valuable behind.
Something very valuable of yourself; 
something also worth honouring and being grateful for.

You must go back and reclaim your power. 
You must go back and regain responsibility and act from consciousness.
You must go back and look your enemy, your mother, father or lover in the eye,
and see the soul that helped you to grow.
See the soul that wants you to evolve.
See the soul that helped you to remember and know; 
That you are the love you are looking for, and
You hold the keys to your freedom.

And when you have reclaimed all that was truly yours,
and when you have given back what is truly theirs,
the ties are undone, with reverence, and an honouring of the truth,
then the situation will depart from your reality in peace.

Love cannot be dumped like rubbish.
Nor can it be pushed away and denied or hidden.
It demands our fullest attention.
It hammers down our doors and walls to be let in.
Love's voice must be heard and all things be humbly forgiven.


Take into your heart the only thing that truly lasts forever, surpassing all else;
The love that was, is and always will be, yours to own.



All my love
Tara